Recently I changed my Whatsapp status into hakuna matata. Because it sounded cool. And had a deep meaning that one should follow in life. Starting to write this, I suddenly discovered that I had forgotten what the meaning was. And yes, as a logical next step, I googled it, and it wikipedia says it means "no worries", also that it is in Swahili. Doing this, I realise that sometimes we forget what we meant by the mottos that we kept to heart and considered as our driving force. I believe that most of us have a quote to inspire ourselves. Mine was one by HW Longfellow. It kept me driving for 2 years. And I am amazed by the fact that mere words, and a very few of them, arranged as a poem(which is not exactly a favorite genre of mine) was able to do what it did. Yet later, when I lost track and wanted to re-inspire myself, I stuck it upon my wall again, but unfortunately didnt have the desired effect. Not because the words lost their charm, but because the context in which I wanted to drive myself was different. I also discovered that I needed a new quote for this situation and I couldnt find any that stuck.
Anyway, this was not the point of opening my account with the intention of writing something in a very long time. What I wanted to talk about was the Whatsapp status that I had before hakuna matata. "Growing up is a painful process". I generally tend to beat down my urges to put up a self-deprecating sentence in social media because I dont want people who already didnt know about my constant bitching/whining. Most of the people around me know that since I havent yet discovered the switch that would shut me up. But this was so true and I really thought this is the kind of truths that at some later point would be considered as a quote. :)
I dont know how universal it is, but growing up is a really bad process which might even leave bruises while and when it is done. You fumble through yourself, discover aspects that nobody, and especially not you, noticed before. You hurt badly when you see what you have done wrong. You try to correct yourself and may be succeed, but also you might find that there are traits in you that you dont like or you hate and you have been carrying it for a long time and you cant get rid of them. You might hate yourself a little for it. You might find that there are people that you hurt as a kid, and there is nothing you could do about it. There are things that you continue to do even if you realise that they are bad for you or someone else but you cant help yourself and stop them.
And then there are these times when you want to do things yourself or your way and you realise that it is going to hurt someone when you do so, either because they never gave away control before or because they dont like you taking charge of your life. Yes, you are taking charge of your life. You grab the power to do it. But with power comes responsibility (YES, I am quoting spiderman here). And you are responsible for your own the moment you become an adult. Because that it what it means to be an adult. Somebody who takes charge of their own life and move through it, accepting mistakes that they make to themselves.
Things might take you by surprise but you handle them. You find that your shoulders are strong enough to carry whatever that is thrown at you, but you also might find new shoulders to cry on when you feel like things have become too much.
In short, life happens. It hits you like this random truck that lost control on a slippery road and come right at you and you notice it the last moment. You paralyse and you are unable to move even as you know that it is gonna hit you. Yes, life does that. Others might say that life surprises you. You dont know whether it is good or bad. But you know that you are never going to be the same. And that you cannot survive if you dont trust in yourself.
It doesnt matter if people find you beautiful or strong or confident. You have to believe that you are all that. Even if you are beautiful but you never knew that, there is no point that the rest of the world know. And even if you are not beautiful in the eyes of the world, it doesnt matter one bit if you believe that you are beautiful. Be beautiful.
Anyway, this was not the point of opening my account with the intention of writing something in a very long time. What I wanted to talk about was the Whatsapp status that I had before hakuna matata. "Growing up is a painful process". I generally tend to beat down my urges to put up a self-deprecating sentence in social media because I dont want people who already didnt know about my constant bitching/whining. Most of the people around me know that since I havent yet discovered the switch that would shut me up. But this was so true and I really thought this is the kind of truths that at some later point would be considered as a quote. :)
I dont know how universal it is, but growing up is a really bad process which might even leave bruises while and when it is done. You fumble through yourself, discover aspects that nobody, and especially not you, noticed before. You hurt badly when you see what you have done wrong. You try to correct yourself and may be succeed, but also you might find that there are traits in you that you dont like or you hate and you have been carrying it for a long time and you cant get rid of them. You might hate yourself a little for it. You might find that there are people that you hurt as a kid, and there is nothing you could do about it. There are things that you continue to do even if you realise that they are bad for you or someone else but you cant help yourself and stop them.
And then there are these times when you want to do things yourself or your way and you realise that it is going to hurt someone when you do so, either because they never gave away control before or because they dont like you taking charge of your life. Yes, you are taking charge of your life. You grab the power to do it. But with power comes responsibility (YES, I am quoting spiderman here). And you are responsible for your own the moment you become an adult. Because that it what it means to be an adult. Somebody who takes charge of their own life and move through it, accepting mistakes that they make to themselves.
Things might take you by surprise but you handle them. You find that your shoulders are strong enough to carry whatever that is thrown at you, but you also might find new shoulders to cry on when you feel like things have become too much.
In short, life happens. It hits you like this random truck that lost control on a slippery road and come right at you and you notice it the last moment. You paralyse and you are unable to move even as you know that it is gonna hit you. Yes, life does that. Others might say that life surprises you. You dont know whether it is good or bad. But you know that you are never going to be the same. And that you cannot survive if you dont trust in yourself.
It doesnt matter if people find you beautiful or strong or confident. You have to believe that you are all that. Even if you are beautiful but you never knew that, there is no point that the rest of the world know. And even if you are not beautiful in the eyes of the world, it doesnt matter one bit if you believe that you are beautiful. Be beautiful.
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